Sexology is the study of human sexual behavior, what people do sexually and how they feel about it. I consider myself a Holistic Sexologist because I see each person as whole… body, mind and spirit. I also consider myself a Sacred Sexologist because I believe that we are all sacred human beings on this planet and our sexuality is an important aspect of who we are. I believe that our sexuality directly affects how we experience our lives. When we are whole and complete in all areas, including sex, we can truly experience the freedom and joy of life.

My Personal Story

I did not become a sexologist just because I like sex (and I do!). My journey began when I was sexually assaulted at knifepoint at the age of eighteen. In 1980, I was a Born-Again Christian and was naive about sex. It was that sheltering for the sake of “sexual purity” that nearly cost me my life. According to that particular fundamentalist Christian thinking, even having sexual thoughts was sinful. Knowledge about sexuality would imply thinking about sex, so I didn’t. I was very devout and repressed my sexuality from the time I was thirteen till the assault at eighteen. Those five years would have been very sexually formative for me, so needless to say, after my sexual assault, my life was never the same. This began my journey towards healing and wholeness.images-5

All of this happened way before the internet, so I was very isolated in my experience. I was raised in a generation where good girls didn’t even talk about sex. My assault was shrouded in shame and guilt, which only made things worse. I told a few close friends, but I felt alone and fearful of the implications of this event. I looked for evidence that it was even possible to have a healthy sex life after what had happened, but I found nothing. This event led to depression and a path of much heartbreak.

Ultimately, I went through years of different types of therapy and healing to find my wholeness.  My path showed me that I needed to heal on many levels.  It took years to see that it was a mind, body and spirit healing that would ultimately make me whole.

I am pleased to say that now, thirty five years later, I am healthy, and happy, living my best life, and enjoying a joyful sexuality. This is why I became a Holistic Sexologist. I want to help others find their own path to healing and stand as a living example of what’s possible. I want to be a support and inspiration to anyone who has sexual issues that they are courageously dealing with. I want to inspire spiritual people to embrace their sexuality as a sacred gift.


More on Sexology

Just as geologists study the earth and psychologists study the mind, sexologists study sexuality. Sexologists investigate sexuality as an important part of being human, and look at sex not just through a biology lens, but also from a medical, interpersonal, psychosocial, political, linguistic, and even criminological perspective.

“Sexual Bill of Rights”

The freedom of any sexual thought, fantasy or desire
The right to sexual entertainment, freely available in the market place, including sexually explicit materials dealing with the full range of sexual behavior
The right not to be exposed to sexual material or behavior
The right to sexual self-determination
The right to seek out and engage in consensual sexual activity
The right to engage in sexual acts or activities of any kind whatsoever, providing they do not involve non-consensual acts, violence, constraint, coercion or fraud
The right to be free of persecution or societal intervention in private sexual behavior
The recognition by society that every person, partnered or un-partnered, has the right to the pursuit of a satisfying consensual socio-sexual life free from political, legal or religious interference and that there needs to be mechanisms in society where the opportunities of socio-sexual activities are available to the following: disabled persons; chronically ill persons; those incarcerated in prisons, hospitals or institutions; those disadvantaged because of age, lack of physical attractiveness or social skills; poor and the lonely
The basic right of all persons who are sexually dysfunctional to have available non-judgmental sexual health care
The right to control contraception