Many people consider themselves spiritual in every area of their lives, except sex. With shame and guilt, they hide their true sexuality from even themeslves, hoping one day to understand what true sacred sexuality is all about. We want to live conscious lives, and bringing consciousness to sexuality can transform your relationships and your entire reality.
The light of our soul guides us in every area of our lives…including our sexuality
One reason you might not be experiencing your sex as sacred, is because for most people, sex takes place primarily in the “lower triangle”. (the first three chakras including the anus, sex organs and navel). That translates to sex, which only involves our primal or instinctual self. There is nothing inherently wrong with sexual union primarily from this area, however, if you are seeking more enlightened sex, you might want to consider including more of yourself and your body in your sexuality.
There may be very good reasons you have disconnected your heart from your pelvic region. Past trauma and hurt can block energy flow, keeping past stuck feelings from being released. This is why sometimes people ask, “why can’t you just get over it?” when they are talking about a past sexual abuse, assault or trauma. Full sexual healing comes from going through the pain to the other side. These are the kind of issues that are often deeper than the physical realm, and require compassion and time to explore and fully heal.
If you want more from sex, you may want more Conscious Sexuality
By only involving your lower chakras during sex, most likely you will experience many of the same issues arising, time and time again, in your life. These issues primarily involve intense feelings of life and death, survival, security, insecurity, jealousy, sex and money, power under, power over, power struggles, and more. The love that you feel could seem rather hollow or disconnected, or you may not experience any emotions from sex at all. Sex and love could be two completely disconnected things. Sometimes it seems that no matter how much sexual activity (including masturbation) you get, it’s never enough. This can also lead to sexual compulsion and acting out. For many, this is not a problem, but for others, they seek something more.
It is impossible to experience true love when your sexuality is disconnected from your heart
With simply primal or instinctual sex, love and sex could be nothing more than an ideas thought about in the mind. If the pelvis is not connected to the heart during sex in a relationship, this could show up in many problematic ways. Without authentic heart connection, after sex you may feel empty, unseen, unloved, unknown, longing for something more or like something essential is missing from your sexual relationship. If you are disillusioned compulsively seeking sexual pleasure through meaningless sexual encounters or watching endless amounts of porn, maybe your soul calling for a deeper kind of sex. There is no shame in accepting the truth of where you are.
The heart connection is crucial, in order to experience actual love while having sex, alone or with a partner
An authentic experience of love is something that can only be had through connection with the heart center. It is in connecting our heart chakra with our lower triangle that we can fully express true love during sex. It is this connection that makes true spiritual sexual union possible. Alone, this can take masturbation to the level of sacred self-pleasuring.
Sacred Self Pleasuring is a kind of profound sexual-spiritual practice that can be experienced when you are alone with the Divine. Merging all of your chakras with these sacred energies can be a very ecstatic and fulfilling personal practice. You can learn to master this art as a meditation and gift.
This connection of the lower chakras and heart chakra also engenders a deeper bonding, profound heart opening, true love, generosity, kindness, vulnerability, authenticity, and honesty within yourself. This alone has the power to completely transform your relationship. We can also become connected with our longing, destiny, soul purpose, and deepest desires.
By connecting our lower chakras with our hearts, however, we might also confront old wounds of past heartbreaks, disappointments and grief. We may come face to face with past sexual trauma and fears. By consciously going through whatever is in your heart and clearing the blockages, you can experience great freedom. There is tremendous healing when you learn to embrace your whole self. By opening all channels to love, we can have an expanded capacity to love and be loved.
“A good orgasm is satisfying, but a great orgasm can be a revelation of your deepest being, unfolding the truth of who you are in ecstatic communion with your lover.” – David Deida
The highest sexual union can be a profound experience of sacred union between two souls and the Divine
Once the heart is connected to the pelvic region, we can move the energy upwards even further to our highest chakras, our spiritual centers. We can learn to speak our truth about our sexuality and ask for what we want by connecting the throat chakra.We can align with the Divine through our brow and crown chakras and experience sacred sexual bliss running through our whole body. This profound experience, enables a union that can become a meditation, prayer and sacred offering. It is also a powerful and potent force for our creativity and purpose on the planet.
From this conscious sexual connection, at last we can experience sex as truly a sacred experience
Tantric arts and sacred sexual magic are possible when bodies harmonize with all chakras awakened and alive. This is the spiritual height of sexuality we can experience with our human bodies in full alignment with our soul. It is a sacred gift and blessing that we can only experience when our consciousness and whole body are clear and awake.
“The beauty and wisdom of Tantra is that it enhances sexuality as a doorway to the “ecstatic mind of great bliss”. Truly, at the peak of orgasm, we pierce through the illusion of fragmentation and separation, and glimpse the unity and interconnectedness of all beings. And through the other–our partner–we fall in love with life. “ ~Margot Anand